Quarter Life Friends

By now, most of us are in the first quarter of their lives. While some of us all graduated, found a job and found a partner, others (including me) have graduated, started to travel, came back , got a job and felt miserable. We officially have the disease that is also known as ‘the quarter life crisis’ . This crisis is characterized by panic attacks, binge eating , and stupid mistakes. Add some explosive friends to this mixture and BOOM the crisis is very real and very present. So what kind of “explosive” friends do you tend to have during this crisis?

1. The Nagger

We all have that friend who is always “worse off” than us. She is always complaining about everything, her life, her job and her boyfriend. On top of that, when we suggest her to change something about her “miserable” life, she always goes into defense ‘yeah but…’ . Oh puleassseee so just stop nagging already!!! We know “quarter life crisis” is horrible but girl, the only one who can help you get out of it is you!

• Why is she so explosive? Because sometimes you just need to nag, and you just need other girls to understand and to agree with you! Not make it any worse!!! Every now and then you don’t need other people’s problems! You just need them to goddamn listen!!!

• Don’t be fooled! This girl probably doesn’t have the balls to do anything with her life and might drag you down with her.

• But you will never stop loving her : Because she is your friend and you never ditch a friend in need. She just might need that extra push and you are more than willing to give it to her. Even if she will always nag your ears off, you will always love her because friends in the quarter life are friends for life

2. The Sunny-side-up The sunny side up is your typical happy flappy girl, who loves everything and always seems to be happy. She is also very passionate in everything she does and knows what she wants. She rarely complains, but when she does, it’s always brief and not annoying at all. After a quick nag, she let’s go and moves on.

• Why is she so explosive? Because it seems like she is never in this crisis and has everything figured out, it makes you feel like you’re the one with a problem. However, because of her positive attitude she might be able to pull you at of that dark hole.

• Don’t be fooled! It’s not because it seems that her life is in order, it actually is! She might have some serious problems herself , so it’s up to you to be a good friend and ask her from time to time if everything is really okay.

• But you will never stop loving her : Because every time you crack, she always knows how to cheer you up. She is truly a helpful passionate friend who would do anything for you

3.The Adult

Personally I’ve got two core groups of girlfriends and the second group can all be characterized into this specific category. They are all settled, they are all happy, they all have a steady job they love and a steady boyfriend who loves them.

• Why is she so explosive? It’s quite annoying if you’re the only one who is not like them (me) because it makes you feel like a kid. Like a goddamn child (see the frustration rising here?) .

• Don’t be fooled! They probably all have problems themselves because no human being is perfect. And they probably envy your fabulous glam single lifestyle (or so I hope)

• But you will never stop loving her : Because they always have solutions for you when you’re having another crisis and everyone needs an example of how life could be. And without adult friends, you will always stay that indecisive child.

4.The wanderer

That friend who is even worse in life then you. She is the traveler, the wanderer, she does have a job but probably hates it and is saving up to wander some more. She has no clue what she has to do with her life and changes course every time a new opportunity pops up.

• Why is she so explosive? It’s so hard to keep up with her choices and her mood. One day she is the happiest person alive and the next she’s the thunder cloud because her new beau was not exactly what she imagined.

• Don’t be fooled! She also needs steadiness but is just not ready for it. But she will one day, she will.

• But you will never stop loving her : Well I actually cannot speak for this because I am the wanderer at this point. Please don’t stop loving me!

5.The safety-hatch

This person is actually the one that you need during this crisis. She’s just like you but she always knows what to say and how to make you feel at ease. It’s possible that she’s a year older but she seems so much wiser. Even though she doesn’t feel like that herself. She loves to nag as well but in a good way, never too much. She’s not exactly happy with her life but she is certain the good times will be present in a nearby future.

• Why is she so explosive? She isn’t !

• Don’t be fooled! She’s your bff and will help you all the way through, which goes vice versa.

• But you will never stop loving her : Well of course not, she’s your goddamn BFF!

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